Monday, March 21, 2011

Slippery when wet but may drip

Eros Original Bodyglide 

Silky and slick without being overly thick. It's long lasting and probably the best lube I've found for anal sex. And, although it seems expensive, just a little goes a long way and a small bottle is going to last quite a while which means you'll use less and probably save money in the long run.

This is my gold-standard lube. I am not sure that there is any other lube on the market that is so close to natural lubricant. My caveat for this is that I use it for two reasons and two reasons only: for masturbation and for oral sex. This lube is L-Arginine free, petro-chemicals free, paraben free, and glycerin free. It is condom safe even if not safe for use with my silicone toys (why I use a different lube for play with toys). It does have the same odd mouth-feel of other silicone lubes but has absolutely no taste.

I am not afraid to say that I love anal sex. And as someone who loves this, I want to make sure that injury doesn't happen because I'll get pretty grumpy about waiting for things to heal so that I can have more fun. I spent quite a while asking friends about what they use and reading online reviews to make sure I found something that wasn't going to harm me and also was going to be the best value for my time and money. I wanted something that would last for as long as possible, wasn't going become gummy or sticky or flaky. And this one does everything I want it to do and nothing I don't. So, for the same reasons I just listed, that's why I like using this for masturbation as well.
If I'm pretty sure that masturbation is going to turn into oral sex, I might choose a different lube because I don't really like the mouth-feel of any silicone lube, this one included, but because it's odorless and tasteless, this is the best back up lube out there. I've tried other lubes and find that they do have something of a taste and because many of them are thicker, the mouth-feel changes. This one doesn't change texture. 

I literally signed on specifically to read reviews of silicone lubes used for anal purposes. I wanted to find one of the best products because I didn't want spend time and money just to find out what didn't work.

Here's what I don't like about this lube: the lid. It's a screw top lid. This is a true pain in the butt because you have to stop what you're doing, open the bottle, squeeze out what you want, screw the lid back on and put the bottle aside, and return the bottle to someplace out of the way.

So, I'm giving this 4 of 5 stars simply because that lid can be problem. Otherwise, I honestly love this lube.

long lasting, silky smooth, doesn't irritate
Can be drippy/leave a spot, certainly not an inexpensive option

Sunday, March 20, 2011

Build Muscles the Smart (and Enjoyable) Way ... With a Bonus Feature!

I injured my low back 15 years ago and my neck about a year and a half ago. One of the continuing effects of these injuries are continuing problems with my lower pelvic muscles. One suggestion I received was to look for kegel exercisers to strengthen these muscles. I considered Ben-Wa balls but heard too many stories of them falling out at the most inopportune time. My next thought was to look for something that weighed a little less but would still help me achieve the goal of building muscles. I settled on the Smart Balls for a few reasons - first is that I liked the material they are made from, I liked the concept of two connected balls, and they were reasonably priced. I did read the reviews before buying them and decided that these were probably going to fit all my needs. And I will say that I got all that I asked for and more (see below for the unexpected bonus). I ended up choosing the Magenta-Pearly Rose ones. They really are attractive even if I don't see them too often.

These are packaged in a slightly more than functional manner: The front of the package shows the balls encased in molded clear plastic. The back of the package is like a book in that you can open this (secured by 2 magnets) and read about the material and how to use/insert them. The graphics are the usual Fun Factory with bright colors. Included inside is a rather long pamphlet printed in (at least) 6 languages.

I didn't notice any odor to the balls themselves. What I did notice was the sensation of shaking them. Evidently there is an inside ball in each one that moves and rattles. I started laughing because all I could think to compare them to is a baby's rattle although with less noise. They do sound interesting.

Putting them in takes some time and patience. You may need to use (a little, really just a bit) of lube. The balls are just less than 2" in diameter, which some women are going to find too broad for comfort. Also, the two balls measure about 4.5" in length, which again, some women are going to find too long for comfort. It takes some time to get them situated and they do provide a feeling of fullness, which can make them a fun accessory to a romantic evening if you wear them out with a date. They provide sensation and anticipation of what may happen at the end of the date ;)

Once in, they should keep themselves in place unless your muscles need some training. I don't recommend urinating when them in and MOST DEFINITELY not while defecating. Your muscles relax at these times and they can slip out. Trust me, digging in the toilet to retrieve them (and then to wash them off) isn't going to be fun.

Consistent usage will result in muscle development. It does take time and patience to see results though and you need to be dedicated to using them. When in place it does make walking a lot more fun and also much easier to remember to do the kegel tightening exercises. And yes I do enjoy wearing them when going out to parties or on a date because they do provide a lovely feeling of anticipation.

Care and cleaning are really simple: wash, rinse, repeat with soap and water. Yes you can sterilize them by running them through the dishwasher although I'd recommend turning heated dry off. Storing is a bit tricky as the elastomed can pick up lint. Try storing them in a small plastic bag or a bag that gives off little lint.

Although these are safe and nonporous, I am not sharing mine. I think it's just my own preference because they are certainly safe enough to use with more than one person provided you are doing a full antibacterial cleaning after use. Fun Factory says these can be used for anal play and I can see how that might work so here's my suggestion: first is to make sure you keep a grip on/at least a finger through the cord to make sure the anal muscles don't pull the balls all of the way into the anus. Alternately, just insert one of the two balls into the anus. They are certainly broad enough to provide some great sensation.

I will be honest and say that it took me a few times to get used to inserting this and holding them in place. Sometimes I found that one of the balls had slipped out and I needed to go push it back in. I'm glad I was patient because I did notice that there was some better muscle control the longer I used them and now they do not slip out at all.

There is an unexpected bonus to using the Smart balls. That elastomer-covered cord? It transmits vibration well. REALLY well. Try this: take a vibrator and put it through the cord, bringing it taut. That cord transmits vibrations up through the cord and into to the Smart balls themselves. And, since they're resting against your G-spot? Yeah, it's a pretty heavenly feeling.

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Ruff Doggie Styles Roses Flogger review: Art or Implement?

It was a typical day,lots of working interspersed with the occasional foray into Facebook land. I'd noticed the Eden Fantasys 14 days of Love contest and the question was actually something I knew the answer to. So I posted and a couple of days later got an email from Kristi Eden telling me I'd won. Won? Really? Squeak. And then my data connection (through my cell phone) died and I ended up sending my contact info via touch keyboard on my phone. Grr. But what a pay off.

So what did I win? Why something to make my happy little masochistic heart go pitter pat. The Ruff Doggie Styles Roses Flogger. Nope, it's not a dozen roses. It's nine. Even better, in my opinion. Not only won't these roses die, they'll provide many lovely memories. Made of leather with lovely delicate red leather roses, green leaves and black thorns, it's a work of art. No seriously. I'm stuck between wanting to hang it on the wall along with the rest of the art or keeping it handy for when the mood strikes.

This is well constructed flogger. The red braided leather handle isn't showing signs of loosening or unraveling. The black knobs at each end of the handle are covered with black leather in a tighter braid. did have some worry that the rose tips or leaves would not stand up to steady use. I'm pleased to find out that these roses are sewn on tightly with little chance of falling off. Same said for the leaves. A confusing aspect of the tails is that I keep thinking there are thorns on the tails but I think that the tails themselves represent the thorns.

The handle itself is about eight inches long with about a one inch knob at each end. One end then leads to the tails and the other end has a braided loop for extra security (so the flogger doesn't go flying if you suddenly lose your grip). Some might find the handle itself very light. I like it because swinging a flogger is an exercise in and of itself and keeping the handle lighter saves me some fatigue. Others might find it too light, but for me, it's a very good weight, especially considering the tails are heavier than expected given the extra leather constructing the roses, and leaves.

I mentioned that the tails are significantly heavier and somewhat longer than average. And when swung, the roses tend to land in a group. As such this makes for a very thuddy sensation. If you are someone who enjoys thud more than sting, you are really going to like this flogger. Please keep in mind that swinging this energetically will cause some initial welting which will color into some spectacular bruises. Again, keep in mind that I like seeing marks after the session is over, so this is not a problem for me. What makes this a good flogger for beginners as well as experienced players is the extra heft and length of the tails. It is an easy flogger to swing once you get an idea of swinging something this long and the thudding sensation is something that a novice or expert can enjoy. It is certainly a different sensation than, say, a rubber flogger. With work you can get sting out of this but most of the time it will be more in the thud category.

The tails themselves are quite long at about 24 inches. Added to the 8-10 inches of handle, this flogger is a full 36 inches (give or take a few inches). You're going to need some room to swing this. Sadly, my apartment doesn't quite have the room for a full swing. However we were able to find an accommodation.

I strongly suggest storing this somewhere where you can lay it flat or hang it up. I was only kind of joking about hanging this up on the wall as art. It's as good a way to store this as any other. I don't recommend this as a multiple-person use toy simply because I just adore the intense colors and don't want to jeopardize the color by using antibacterial cleaner. There is no reason not to use a regular leather cleaner and yes I can and have used sanitizing cleaner on other leather items. But they were usually black or dark brown and I honestly didn't worry about losing color. One of the things that I like so much about this flogger is the aesthetic appeal as well as its functionality and I am unwilling to take a chance. So yes I'm selfish and keeping this toy for me and my fluid-bonded partner.

Please note that I wrote this review simply because I wanted to and not because I was paid in any way for my opinion. Yes, I received this free of charge but as a prize in a random drawing contest from Eden Fantasys. Should you feel the urge, go and check them out ( They are an entire online community as well as a fully stocked internet store with brand new and BIGGER warehouse space in their new location in Atlanta. It's true that I love the site and have purchase a great many of my toys here, but I still will write an honest review.